Sample only. Anna and Jordan are a fictional couple. A real Growth Report is private to the two of you. Couples always see band names, icons, and a four-dot meter, never scores.
Anna & Jordan
Married eleven years, two young kids. Work and family have taken over, and they feel more like roommates than they’d like. They chose different lenses, and their report still lines up.
Steady. Solid ground, with room to grow.
Next: one card for each part of your relationship. Strengths first. Anything marked “worth a conversation” is a question to ask, not a grade.
How to read the bands
- FlourishingA real strength. Protect it and build from it.
- SteadySolid ground, with room to grow.
- GrowingA growth edge. Small, steady changes here pay off.
- Needs CareThis area is asking for attention. Start here, gently.
What you love about each other
Each of you named things the other does well, in your own words. Your report always opens here.
They put everything down
“When I tell you about work you close the laptop. Every time.”
They don’t jump to fixing
“On the hard nights you just let me talk.”
Their humor
“You can make me laugh on the worst day.”
How they parent
“The way you are with Eli at bedtime.”
Our friendship
How we handle hard things
“We always end up on the same side.”
Their generosity
Their integrity
“You do the right thing when no one is watching.”
Your relationship, area by area
Every card shows a Growth Band. More filled dots means more of a strength. No numbers, ever.
Communication
- Showing UpSteady
- Feeling Heard Worth a conversationGrowing
- Feeling AppreciatedGrowing
- Gentle ConflictGrowing
- RepairGrowing
- Safe to SpeakSteady
Emotional Connection
- Feeling LovedSteady
- Feeling UnderstoodSteady
- Teamwork Under StressGrowing
- PlayGrowing
- Room to Be YouSteady
- Shared FutureFlourishing
Common Ground
- Shared ValuesSteady
- Bigger Than UsSteady
- Respect for BeliefsSteady
- CommitmentFlourishing
- Grace and ForgivenessSteady
Physical Intimacy
- Sexual SatisfactionGrowing
- Feeling DesiredGrowing
- Talking About SexGrowing
- Freedom from PressureSteady
What you both want more of
Anna would love
Finishing a thought without being interrupted.
Jordan would love
More time to have fun together.
Worth a conversation. You and Jordan experience Feeling Heard differently. Worth a conversation. What does "I feel heard" look like for each of you?
How well you know each other
You read each other well here
- You both knew how the other likes to unwind.
- You both knew what matters most to the other for the next five years.
- You both knew how long the other needs after a tense moment.
Questions to ask
- Ask Anna: when you are upset, what do you want first?
- Ask Jordan: what kind of fun fills you up most right now?
- Ask each other: what is the biggest stress in your week right now?
Not wrong answers. Just good questions.
Feeling Heard · Play · Repair
Two or three areas to grow in first, chosen together. Each comes with a short Practice for this week.
Feeling Heard
Say It Back
Before you respond to anything that matters, repeat back what you heard in one sentence.
About 5 minutes · Just you
Play
New Thing Night
Try something neither of you has done. It can be free and at home.
About 45 minutes · Together
Repair
Notice the Olive Branch
Each evening, name one attempt your partner made to ease tension or make up.
About 3 minutes · Just you
See your own gifts.
Opening early 2027. The Growth Snapshot is five minutes and free, and your answers stay private.